Pokegeek151 asks us: "What does it feel like to stalk someone?"

This question is answered by Zeke Zeka. - Anna



Wow, good question! First remember that nobody thinks of themselves as the bad guy. In their head there's always a rationalization. Nobody will ever admit to stalking because they don't feel that's what they're doing. I imagine a quite a few justifications would work. Biggest one I see, chick flicks. He pursues her tireless ly and eventually she falls for him, sometimes just because he loves her enough to never give up. Everything the guys do in love stories would, in reality, result in a police report and no contact order. Many stalkers probably fancy themselves as the real life Matthew McConaughey. Enough dedication or saying/doing just the right thing will win her over. Many others believe she's playing hard to get, we're all familiar with that excuse. Also, there's the angry, post break up stalking, that's fueled by a feeling that they were wronged and that justice and fairness dictate that she not live a happy life or find another relationship, or that she at least confess and apologize for her perceived wrong doings. In any case, use the rational feelings any one of us would have and stretch them to a situation where they're unwarranted, that's the key to a sick mind. I've seen many cases. The majority of the cases, when I finally met the guy, she fell into his arms and they were a happy couple until he was out of earshot then was a "creepy stalker" again. Selfishness is a lot more common than mental illness. A quite a few other cases were an attempt to collect a debt. Irresponsibility, dishonor, as outright theft are more common than mental illness too. The majority of the legitimate cases I've seen are the "how dare you leave me and break my heart" type. The romanticised version are usually thick headed about it. He feels nothing but tenderness for her, is hurt when he sees her with another guy, all the normal stuff. Picture yourself with the feelings of both situations of loving somebody that's with somebody else and being on the verge of talking the girl you're in love with to going out but life keeps cheating you out of it. These personality types usually anthropomorphize life, giving it motives, biases, and even grudges. "Bad guys" usually think of themselves as the victim. There's also controlling people, the ones that have to "own" or dominate somebody. I can't relate to them on any level or flex normal feeling to accommodate it, so who knows what's going on in their screwed up little melon. Hope this helps a little